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Mismatched Sex Drive, What You Can Do?

A mismatched sex drive is a common occurrence in long term relationships and can happen at various times throughout the life of the relationship.  This is when one person wants sex more often than the other person creating a problem in the relationship that can be temporary or one that continues to throughout the entire relationship.  If it does begin to present a problem then something needs to be done about it, ignoring the issue will only make matters worse.  Sex is an important aspect of most relationships and when it dwindles or one person wants it more often than the other, it can affect every aspect of the relationship until some resolution or compromise is found.  The first step is to recognize that it is a problem and confront it.  The next step, is to find out why the other person may not want sex as often and if it is loss of desire, a health issue, stress, boredom, or some other factor then talk about it.  Try to come up with a compromise that will work for the two of you.  If you are unable to work it out, then seek the help of a professional to figure out a plan to get the sexual intimacy back on track in the relationship.

Loss of Sexual Desire in Women can be Hormonal Imbalance

There are many reasons why a woman may suffer from the loss of sexual desire and not all of it is psychological----

In fact a large percentage of women that suffer from loss of desire is due to an imbalance in her hormones.  Anytime a woman's hormones are not regulated she can fluctuate with feeling of high desire to feeling of low desire or no sexual desire at all.  Some women who have hormonal imbalance may even go through a period of time when they feel disgusted towards sex.  When a woman has taken birth control pills, been pregnant, or going through menopause, all of this can affect hormones. 




If you are experiencing one or more of the following signs you may have hormonal imbalance.

• Sex drive is low or absent
• If it is difficult to become aroused or you cannot maintain arousal during sexual activity
• You have pain during sexual activity
• You cannot experience orgasm
• Vaginal dryness
• You have no desire to masturbate
• You feel no sexual attraction at all towards anyone (Ruling out situational loss of desire)
• You have been on birth control pills recently or for a long period of time and notice a change in desire.
• You have been pregnant or given birth and it has been over 3 months and you still feel no sexual desire.

Female sexual dysfunction isn’t uncommon – in fact many women experience problems with sexual function at some point in their lives.  Female sexual dysfunction can be a lifelong problem, or can happen later in life after you have experienced a period of satisfactory functioning.  There are many possible symptoms and causes; fortunately they are treatable.
 

Communicating your concerns and understanding your body and its normal response to sexual activity are the most important steps to take toward change.  If you feel like you have a hormonal imbalance it is important that you get your hormones tested.  The best test for hormones is a saliva test, that can be ordered by your doctor and done at your home.

For more information on hormone testing call (805) 492-6123 or e-mail dawnm42@gmail.com

 You don't have to live without a sex drive anymore get the help you need and enjoy the intimacy that you once had, or always wanted to have!