The Not So "Hotwife" in a Cuckold Marriage

Straight Man with a Penis Fetish in Cuckold Relationship

This subject matter of a straight man having a fetish for a male penis is still very taboo and not well understood.  Most people will say that, "if a man desires another guys dick he must be gay?"  This is not the case with this particular fetish.  When counseling clients from around the world, I get a sex history from them.  The importance of the sex history is two fold, as I get to know my client better, I also have seen similarities in particular clients sexual histories pertaining to present sexual patterns, desires and in some cases fetishes.  Compiling sex histories over the years has given me some insight as to why and how sexual fetishes develop in a small percentage of the population.

The sex histories of the men that I counseled as well as interviewed for other studies, the individual's whom developed a fetish, it started around the age of puberty.  An encounter, object, or incident happened prior to or around the time of puberty.  In some men "it" can become arousing coupled with the onset of puberty, along with continued masturbation thinking about "it" that locks in the fetish. 

Just as a man may have a foot fetish, he can also have a penis fetish.  In the area of cuckolding a man can safely play out his penis fetish, because the object is his wife not his fetish for the other man's penis.  The penis fetish becomes acceptable in terms of, she is the one asking him to get the other guy hard by sucking on his dick or giving him a hand job. As confusing as this may sound and some people will jump to the idea that the guy is bisexual and in some cases this may be true but in other instances it is not.  A bisexual man would be attracted to the man not just his penis, in a man with a penis fetish he is not attracted to the man and only desires to suck or fondle the penis.

Some people may find this whole topic to be ridiculous, unsettling, but the reality is that men who are straight and do have a penis fetish, beat themselves up over it, feel tremendous shame, and are terribly confused.  Some of the men reported these events that happened to them when they were younger:
"I was awoken at night by my older brother and on occasion forced me to give him oral sex"  
"I had a friend and his father when I slept at his home had an encounter with him."  
"A neighbor that would pay me money for oral sex."  
"A teacher that paid attention to me and asked  me for oral sex in return" 
"I saw my older brother getting oral sex from his boyfriend and I always wondered what it would feel like to suck another mans dick." 
For a small percentage of men who experienced something like this in their lives, it triggered arousal and with continued thoughts about the incident with the onset of puberty it became a sexual fetish.

Submissive Cuckold Man

For years I have been personally working with men concerning their cuckold fetish and I noticed that many of the men also wanted to be submissive to their wives in their fantasy.  The man himself is generally not submissive in daily life but when it deals wit his sexual fantasy of being a cuckold he does want his wife to control his orgasm as well as be submissive to the other man.

In this sexual fantasy the man (husband) desires his wife to have sex with another man that typically has a larger penis than his, as well as his race be black.  Many times this need or desire comes from an incident of him being cheated on at some point in his life with a girlfriend or wife and then taking that pain of losing her and it becoming the sexual fetish of cuckold.  The video goes into more depth on this matter.

Another aspect of the submissive male is the fact that he wants this other man to sexually please his wife yet be in love with her husband and never leave him because she is sexually satisfied and he is providing her the pleasure.  In many cases this is where his fantasy if it become reality has many pit falls and the biggest one is that his wife falls in love with the other man and leaves him.

The submissive cuckold man may want to watch his wife have sex with the "bull" other man informant of him or hear about it at a later time.  Most submissive men also like to be a part of the sexual situation at a time and even be submissive to the bull himself.  This can involve fluffing, punishment, Chasity belts and pleasing the other man.  Occasionally a submissive cuckold man will  also have a penis fetish as will, which can cause much confusion to him about his sexual preference.  In most cases the fantasy rarely equates into real life and along the way the women have said that they don't understand how their husband can be in love with them and want them to have sex with another man.  In the video we go into more detail on this, and how a man can approach his wife so as not to destroy the marriage.

If you are a man struggling with this it is import to seek help.
This article was written by certified clinical sexologist Dr. Dawn Michael
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