Dangers of Cuckold Relationships

Tie Him up, Control and Tease him with your SEXY BODY

Fifty Shade of Grey, opened the door for other topics to be brought to light, such as Fifty Shades of Gretta the woman who dominated her man (not a real book yet).  We forget to see that sex play is more then Fifty Shades and can be played out in hundreds of ways.  As a clinical sexologist I help men and couples with their sex lives. For some men it is a freeing experience for them to accept their submissive side and learn to enjoy it. 

Is it really that strange that a man would enjoy being dominate by a woman at least some of the time?


When a woman sexually dominates a man, it can take the pressure off of him to perform sexually and give him the freedom to just enjoy the experience.  In my new book Intimacy Guidebook for Couples one of the exercises that I recommend for couples is to take turns being in control of the sexual experience.  One night she can control him and the next night he may decide to control her or ask her to take over again...........

The exercise works well because it gives the couple permission to play outside the normal sexual routine that they many have fallen into.  When a woman takes control over a man she can push her own sexual boundaries as well, feeling how it is to tell her man what to do, or perhaps just do what she pleases to him sexually.

When a woman controls the man sexually, he is giving himself to her and trusting that she will take care of him even if she decides to spank, peg or cane him, she still has to be responsible for his safety.  What may appear to be the woman in control it really about the trust and her taking care of him while she is sexually pleasing herself. 

For the next round of sexual play why not tie him up, control and tease him with your sexy body, click the LELO picture to view some sexy straps......!

The Submissive Husband

I told him to get down on his knee's and look up at me. 

I am in control of your orgasms as your wife and you will listen to me.  He looked up at me with passion in his eyes and nodded.  I then told him to rise and put his hands to his side.  I placed a chastity belt on his penis, locked it and put the key in my bra.  "I am now in control of your orgasms do you understand me?  You cannot touch yourself unless you ask me."  He nodded his head in response.  I told him to get dressed and ready for work.  He put his slacks on, his pressed blue shirt, Armani STRIPED SILK DRESS TIE,  jacket, cufflinks and alligator shoes.  We stepped out of the bedroom and everything changed.

 I was now domestic around the house and he was off to run his multimillion dollar company.

 A submissive husband is not a concept that most women understand.  The husband may be dominant in the business world and around others, but when it come to sex he prefers for his wife to be in control!

In American cultural the men are suppose to be dominant sexually, but this is not always the case.  There are some men who dominate their business life to the extent that they want to let lose and be dominated in the bedroom.  They feel a sense of relief when they can just be told what to do by their wives sexually, and not have to initiate or be responsible for controlling their sex lives all the time.

Some men have found a happy marriage where they can freely explore this type of sex play.  The idea that a man may get sexually excited by a woman being in control if looked at from another perspective may not be all that unusual.  As couples mature together sexually it can become boring or not very appealing to have sex the same way every time.  If we compare sexual desire to our taste in food we can see that over time our food choices change.  What might have tasted great when we were younger or we would not try at all seems to be interesting and delicious as we mature.  Even our taste buds change as we age, they dull and something spicy foods may become exciting or something sweet may be too sweet.  We also tend to try new spices as we mature.  The same goes for our sexual appetites.  Adding role play to the sexual routine may add the needed spices to make the meal all that much more flavorful.  Role play and change in who always controls sex can be a great way to allow a man to let go, relax and have fun.  Women who are able to let go and be dominate with their husbands from time to time have also reported a happier sex life, where they feel empowered using their feminine strength to excite him.  Women learn how to tap into their dominate feminine side using their sexuality to tease, excite and control their man's sexual desire and sexual response.

A woman taking over in the bedroom may be the dash of spice that her husband has been longing for.  As a clinical sexologist I recommend that couples talk about their sex lives with one another, and use the comparison of food to make it easier to talk about sex in a fun a playful way.  


For help with your intimate life contact Dr. Dawn Michael (805) 329-6112 or www.thehappyspouse.com

Why high powered executive men choose to be submissive in bed

There is an absolute correlation in men and high powered jobs that are responsible for being in charge during the day that want to let go and be taken control of during sex or at least not have to always be the one initiating.  

The complete loss of control and submission to a woman in the bedroom, takes the pressure off of the sexual situation and gives the man the ability to relax and enjoy the sexual experience.  This type of submission can take on many different degrees of submissive behavior, depending on the man.  I have worked with men in my practice for many years and some range from erection problems, orgasm issues, or simply lack of intellectual erotic stimulation to more harsh discipline, including denial of orgasm, chastity and forms of cuckolding.

The correlation even goes beyond the boardroom so to speak and into the mind of many of these men. 

The idea of "normal" sex is not enough to stimulate their minds which is the biggest sex organ in the body, with the penis coming next.  When a man is dominated by a woman and put in a submissive position, he is not only out of control but left guessing what is in store for him, leaving him with all types of situations that can happen.  The idea of pain and punishment is also part of the brain that located in the amygdala fight or flight that can be arousing adding the extra adrenalin to kick in making the experience all that more exciting.

For a woman who is married to a man that has hented about her taking control of him in the bedroom, make it a point to enquire more about it.  If he is asking it means that he has already been thinking about it, and if you are not going to be the one to step in and at least play, he will find another way to explore his submissive side.  One way to eaise into the situation with your husband would be to take charge of the sex in your marriage from time to time, initating the sex play and telling him what to do.  You may be surprised at how delighted and obedient he will become.  As I stated there are different degrees of submissive that men like some being more extreme than others, but as a couple you can play around and explore together the possibilities rather than him exploring it with another women.

For some women this may sound like a completely strange example but I have know women to put their man in a maids apron butt naked, and demand that he clean the house then, come back to the bedroom and give her a foot massage.  May sound far fetched to some, but a women who really understands the concept and
can play, may enjoy her marriage all that much more!

For more information or advice on how to spice up your sex life visit me at Thehappyspouse