Effective Communication: Why Do Men Hide Their Emotions? | Dr. Dawn Michael | YourTango

Effective Communication: Why Do Men Hide Their Emotions? | Dr. Dawn Michael | YourTango

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Understating The Cycle of Sexual Aging Associated with Sexual Function

Oftentimes individuals are not aware of the natural sexual changes that the body goes through as it ages.  Some individuals view this as lack of sexual desire or a newly developed sexual dysfunction.

For men the function of the penis changes from adolescents until a man is in his later years. A man in  his twenties, gets erections from any type of stimulation. He can get an erection when the “wind blows”, as the old saying goes. The power and speed of his ejaculation can literally send his semen across the room, or for some guys on the ceiling.


As men age mental stimulation and direct penile stimulation are necessary in helping to maintain an erection, and sexual interest with their partner, “Variety is the spice of life.” 

Some men begin to think that there is something wrong with them sexually because what used to turn them on or how they achieved an erection does not work the same way for them anymore. They start to think that they have a sexual problem, when in reality it is quite normal.  With other men that may have gotten a divorce and begin to date again, and have some problems getting an erection, maintaining an erection or even having an orgasm, this is also very normal. Talking to a professional clinical sexologist can help him understand and educate him on how to control the anxiety that cuts off the blood flow to the penis and function sexually again in the new dating world.

For women as they age their bodies, mind, and hormones change as well.

Some women in their twenties and thirties who took birth control pills for a long period of time, it can affect their desire later on, creating an imbalance in progesterone, estrogen and testosterone. If this happens a woman may want to get her hormones regulated by asking her doctor for a saliva test to see the levels. As women age many become more comfortable with their bodies, but may still feel uncomfortable talking about sex with their partner. Childbirth, hormones, stress, and unsatisfying sex over an extended period of time can greatly affect a women’s enjoyment of sex and her level of desire.

A woman that spends years in a relationship without having orgasms or enjoying sex, it can cause physical problems later on: Such as chronic bladder infections, pain during intercourse or a negative feeling towards sex.

On one end of the spectrum as women age and approaches their 40’s if sex is viewed as positive, and enjoyable then it can be a freeing experience for many women. Women in their 40’s that are divorced, meeting younger men are now having some of the best sex of their lives. For women mental stimulation at any age is important, as well as feeling safe with a partner and good about themselves. Women’s minds are constantly stimulated by daily stress so it takes women a longer time to calm down and focus on the sexual experience, before she can get aroused. Increased foreplay and positive mental stimulation is necessary for a woman to enjoy sex as she ages. Women fall into the same rut of boredom surrounding sex just as men do.


For both men and women understanding how the body and mind ages sexually is extremely important in a relationship, and for many married couples it can be one of the reasons why they are no longer being intimate with each other.
If you have a personal question for Dr. Dawn Michael you can visit her website www.thehappyspouse.com or call (805) 732-7847

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Information on Exercises to Help with Premature Ejaculation

As a clinical sexologist, intimacy counselor and sex educator I look for ways to help individuals and couples have a healthy sex life.  Here are a few articles on exercise for premature ejaculation.

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Premature ejaculation (PE) affects not only a man but also his partner in the relationship. In an episode of PE, the intimacy shared with a partner if he suddenly orgasms to a quick can leave both feeling angry, ashamed, and frustrated, and turn away from each other.

Communication is not only important to successful diagnosis and treatment, but can also help a partner understand the feelings of the individual. Sometimes couple counseling or intimacy counseling may be useful. Together a couple might develop techniques (for example, the squeeze technique) that may prolong an erection. Most importantly, the couple should try to relax. Anxiety (especially performance anxiety) only makes this condition worse.