Monday, June 29, 2015

An evening with The Love Doctors

Do you have some burning questions that you want answered about your sexual health, dating or sex education?

Meet the LOVE doctors Dr. Dawn Michael board certified clinical sexologist and Abilio Ramos M.D. family practitioner, who will give a program on how to improve your overall sexual health and sex life. NO NEED TO FEEL SHY, all questions are put in a box and answered anonymously. This should be a fun and informative evening for all!!!!!

We will also be featuring the latest in couples, women's and mens sex toys by LELO! 

Join us or host your own event!

Friday, May 15, 2015

I want my Wife to spank my butt, how do I tell her?

"It was a long day at the office, being in charge of managing a large bank firm and all I wanted was for my wife to take me into the bedroom, pull down my pants, lay me across her knee's and spank my butt."  

If this sounds like it may pertain to you then, you are not alone.  As a clinical sexologist this topic is brought up in my office more times than one would imagine.  For many men it is a fantasy that they think about often but cannot muster up the courage to ask their wives, for other men they have asked their wives and have been turned down, and then there are other men that visit other women to be spanked. 

If you are a women reading this article you may be wondering why a man would want to be spanked by his wife?

As a man ages along with other stresses in his life, the idea of having to initiate sex all the time or come up with ideas to make sex more exciting can become burdensome to some men.  The idea of a woman spanking his butt allows him to let go, lose control and be taken over by her.  It can also be a form of stress release, while at the same time be erotic and taboo.  For all of these reasons and a few more some men enjoy a good spanking on the butt from their wives. 

From time to time there are men that have confessed to me in counseling, that as a kid they were spanked by mom and it was the only way of attention they got, and it became familiar to them, and persisted past the age of 10.  This is when spanking may become more of a fetish and less of an erotic outlet. 

One man explained in our counseling session.........
"When I was younger the only real attention I got from my mom is when I was bad and then she would take down my pants and spank me.  As I grew older I would find ways to upset her just so I could get a spanking.  This happened as I was going through puberty and became not only attention from mom but sexually exciting."  Now as an adult I still feel loved when I get spanked and for a while I though I could change this but I cannot" 

As I explained to my client who talked about this issues it became clear that it had become a part of his sexual mapping and that indeed he not only felt love from the spanking but turned on, as that is how many fetishes start.  This is not to say that this is why most men who like spanking feel, but men who are not able to get turned on unless spanked this could explain why.

If you have any comments please leave them below. 

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Sunday, April 12, 2015

Sex Education Video Worth Watching!

I think that we should make this a mandatory sex education video for all of our teenagers in the Untied States.  Our teens are learning about sex from pornography instead of educational videos.  This video is from the U.K.

Sex education :Difference Between Penis and Vagina IS A  WONDERFUL VIDEO

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Fifty Shades of Sexy for Your Valentine

As the movie Fifty Shade of Grey plays in theaters there will be a rush to find fun sexy toys to spice up ones Valentines Day.  LELO has put it own line of kinky, erotic sexy toys out just for this special occasion.  It's not to late to get in on the action and create your own Fifty Shades of sexy with your sweetheart.....

Below are some gifts that keep on giving, for your viewing pleasure......

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

A Couples Guide to Better Sexual Intimacy

"As I laid down in my bed next to him, I could feel the warmth of his body against mine, it had been so long since we made love to each other.  The sad fact is I think we both just forgot how to be with one another."

"After my wife had our son, it seemed as though all of her attention was placed on him and somehow she had forgotten how to be my wife.  I longed for her to touch me again, to desire me again.  I just don't know how to approach about this anymore, please help!"


If these comments sound familiar to you then "A Couples Guide to Better Sexual Intimacy", can help you get the sexual intimacy back into your relationship.

Dr. Dawn Michael, ACS created the guidebook to help individuals and couples learn how to work together to create more intimate, loving connections with each other while at the same time improving their sex lives. After years of working with couples, Dr. Michael felt that using traditional therapeutic tools did not address the sexual issues that many couples were experiencing in their relationships. Most traditional therapeutic approaches, however, focused on the problem rather than the solution. She saw the need to develop a guide that would enable couples to open up about their sex lives. She understood that, for many couples, once the intimate connection was gone, the little things in the relationship became more of a problem. Couples could talk for hours about what they were upset about, but when it came down to hurt feelings, it usually was about the lack of intimacy in their relationship along with the skills to communicate those feelings. 

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Monday, December 8, 2014

Tie Him up, Control and Tease him with your SEXY BODY

Fifty Shade of Grey, opened the door for other topics to be brought to light, such as Fifty Shades of Gretta the woman who dominated her man (not a real book yet).  We forget to see that sex play is more then Fifty Shades and can be played out in hundreds of ways.  As a clinical sexologist I help men and couples with their sex lives. For some men it is a freeing experience for them to accept their submissive side and learn to enjoy it. 

Is it really that strange that a man would enjoy being dominate by a woman at least some of the time?

When a woman sexually dominates a man, it can take the pressure off of him to perform sexually and give him the freedom to just enjoy the experience.  In my new book Intimacy Guidebook for Couples one of the exercises that I recommend for couples is to take turns being in control of the sexual experience.  One night she can control him and the next night he may decide to control her or ask her to take over again...........

The exercise works well because it gives the couple permission to play outside the normal sexual routine that they many have fallen into.  When a woman takes control over a man she can push her own sexual boundaries as well, feeling how it is to tell her man what to do, or perhaps just do what she pleases to him sexually.

When a woman controls the man sexually, he is giving himself to her and trusting that she will take care of him even if she decides to spank, peg or cane him, she still has to be responsible for his safety.  What may appear to be the woman in control it really about the trust and her taking care of him while she is sexually pleasing herself. 

For the next round of sexual play why not tie him up, control and tease him with your sexy body, click the LELO picture to view some sexy straps......!

Friday, December 5, 2014

Loss of Sexual Desire in Women can be Hormonal Imbalance

There are many reasons why a woman may suffer from the loss of sexual desire and not all of it is psychological----
In fact a large percentage of women that suffer from loss of desire is due to an imbalance in her hormones.  Anytime a woman's hormones are not regulated she can fluctuate with feeling of high desire to feeling of low desire or no sexual desire at all.  Some women who have hormonal imbalance may even go through a period of time when they feel disgusted towards sex.  When a woman has taken birth control pills, been pregnant, or going through menopause, all of this can affect hormones. 

If you are experiencing one or more of the following signs you may have hormonal imbalance.

  • Sex drive is low or absent
  • If it is difficult to become aroused or you cannot maintain arousal during sexual activity
  • You have pain during sexual activity
  • You cannot experience orgasm
  • Vaginal dryness
  • You have no desire to masturbate
  • You feel no sexual attraction at all towards anyone (Ruling out situational loss of desire)
  • You have been on birth control pills recently or for a long period of time and notice a change in desire.
  • You have been pregnant or given birth and it has been over 3 months and you still feel no sexual desire.

Female sexual dysfunction isn’t uncommon – in fact many women experience problems with sexual function at some point in their lives.  Female sexual dysfunction can be a lifelong problem, or can happen later in life after you have experienced a period of satisfactory functioning.  There are many possible symptoms and causes; fortunately they are treatable.
Communicating your concerns and understanding your body and its normal response to sexual activity are the most important steps to take toward change.  If you feel like you have a hormonal imbalance it is important that you get your hormones tested.  The best test for hormones is a saliva test, that can be ordered by your doctor and done at your home.

For more information on hormone testing call (805) 492-6123 or e-mail

 You don't have to live without a sex drive anymore get the help you need and enjoy the intimacy that you once had, or always wanted to have!

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