Wednesday, August 17, 2011

How to tell my wife that I want to be in a Cuckold marriage

As a clinical sexologist and intimacy counselor, men ask for my advice on what to do about their fetishes.  About 80% of the men are married.  for most of the men they have had the fantasy of their fetish before marrying their wife thinking that it will go away but it does not.  One type of fetish that has intrigued me over the years is a man that wants his wife to cuckold him.  He has recurring thoughts and fantasies of his wife having sex with other men and getting pleasure from them.   The husband is usually the one who wants to get his wife involved but he does not know how to go about telling her.  Once in a while I will counsel a couple who wants to explore the cuckolding together, but it is typically the man initiating this fetish.  The idea of  Cuckolding is that it involves another man that the husband wants his wife to have sex with in front of him or hear about it after.  The husband derives much satisfaction from watching his wife get pleasure from another man that typically will have a larger than average size penis.  Another aspect about cuckolding, is the husband needing to be shamed by his wife, and one way is for her to compere his penis size with the other man and let her husband know that his penis is just to small to please her.

Other forms of shaming can go along with the cuckolding as well depending on the scope of the cuckolding session.  Some men like to be tied to a chair and forced to watch, and not allowed to touch themselves while the scenario is being played out in front of them.  Sometimes a wife will place a cock cage or chastity belt on the husband so that he is not able to masturbate.  A wife may also spank her husband as a form of deeper humiliation and domination...

The man who has this fetish, dreams about his wife sharing it with him, but for the most part most men who approach their wives with this idea do not get a positive response.  It either results into a fight, hard feeling or a trial period leading to disaster.  Some women may be more open to it than others, but the majority will not.  Husbands have asked me as a professional about how to approach their wives with their fantasy of cuckolding, and the answer is always to have a session before hand with me to understand how to approach his wife and her possible respond.  I will advise my male clients who are into the cuckolding fantasy is that they need to tell their wives slowly and see what her reaction is.  Some women are more open to the idea of cuckolding than others but unless it is approached in the right manner often time it does not go well.  The history of men telling me their stories before seeing me they did not approach their wives correctly and it closed the door for them altogether. 

The fact is that once a man is interested in this form of a fetish it is hard to stop him from thinking about it and wanting to act on it!

To set up a counseling session with Dr. Dawn Michael go to www.thehappyspouse.com

43 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree this is a touchy subject for couples to discuss and it is going to take time, and that once thes ideas are in a mans mind he will want to act on them. But once a woman is interested in cuckolding she will more than likely act on them, mine sure did!

Dawn Michael said...

Can you tell us about how you told your wife, it may be helpful to other men.

Anonymous said...

It really wasn't that all of a sudden I told her I would like her to be with another man. Basically we started talking about fantasies,and using sex toys.She was becoming more aroused by the idea of being with another man , we talked about the possibilty for almost 2 years before she decided she wanted it.One day all of a sudden we were sitting on the couch together and she asked me if I still was ok with her doing that, and I said "yes, if you want to" to which she replied she wanted to. and that basically set everything in motion. It was not a quick decision on her part. I think most women will take a long while to think this over before proceding and trying to pressure her into anything will not be good,the one thing you do not want to do is destroy your relationship.

Anonymous said...

Maybe you were looking for a more indepth answer , sorry if I didn't explain enough. I will try to help if I can.

Dawn Michael said...

Thank-you for the comment and yes if you would like to say how you started the conversation off with your wife to begin with that would help as well.

Anonymous said...

I will try to explain, however it happened several years ago. There never was an actual conversation where I sat down with her and stared into her eyes and told her I wanted her to cuckold me.I dont think I even knew what that meant at the time and she sure didn't either. I guess it all happened gradually, like I said we started talking about fantasies and I just blurted out that it would be hot if she was with another man. Of course after I said that I was kind of unsure if I should have said it at all.She wasn't sure if I was serious or just fantasizing but she and I both brought it up in our talks, so it became something we talked about frequently in the bedroom.This was something gradual and neither one of us knew where it was going to go,and like I said I had no idea what cuckolding really was until I read about it on the net.I guess if I had to do it over again I would go about it a different way.I think approaching it with the help of a counselor would really help,and if you both went as a couple it would really be beneficial if the counselor was open to this lifestyle.

Cuck Poductions said...

My first wife cheated on me and when i found out, I was devastated. Then angry and went for divorce. Over a few weeks of us talking, our talks eventually moved to her affair, then I realized talking about it was sexually exciting. I wanted to hear more and more until she finally told me all the details. I couldn't hide my arrousal and she picked up on that. Eventually she got me so worked up with fantacising about it, she asked to see him and sleep with him. I agreed, when she came home we had the best sex of our marriage. I was hooked. We lasted about 6 months and still divorced. It was the original deciept that I couldn't fully trust that ended things. That was 18 years ago.
When I met my current wife 16 years ago. We had the conversation before we ever got married. I didn't know it as Cuckolding, but new I got turned on by my Wife playing with others. I told her if she ever had the desire, don't cheat. Tell me. She said she would never want to cheat.
5 years later, she approached me with the desire. I agreed. She had a great experience with a guy much Younger. I'll never forget the look on her face when she came home. Cloud 9. We made love and she told me about it. She saw him about 3 more times and that was it for a while. We tried swinging and dated a Interacial couple for a while. We had sex with them, but as time went on, we both got more turned on by her playing with the couple and me watching or orally pleasing the woman. He could easily take care of both woman. We were Hooked. They moved away and we both agreed just a safe man for her is best for us. She met a guy. They have been dating for 3 years now. They meet once a week for sex and go away for weekends occasionally. For me its not as exciting as before because they play alone. We still talk about it after, she enjoys coming home and having me clean her up. She is not as interested in sex with me anymore. This has become a case of becareful for what you ask for, you just might get it.
I am interested in both of us talking to you Dawn.

Anonymous said...

Wow, it is great to see the topics of cuckolding and male chastity discussed in a mature way by professionals in sex therapy. In the past people who have been into these activities have often been labeled as "kinksters" or "BDSM people" and have rarely been taken seriously by mainstream therapists.

Our story is similar to the others but we started out with strap-on play. My husband brought it up and I thought it would be fun. After all, if he could dish it out then he ought to be able to take it too, right? I soon became addicted to the power rush of doing him "that way" so when he mentioned using a chastity device I jumped at the idea. I kept him locked for a week or so at first, then longer and longer periods. It was (and still is) a tremendous thrill for both of us that he has relinquished control of his sexuality to me.

One day, after he had been locked up for about a moth, I realized that I missed penetrative sex (he gave me lots of oral). I was about to unlock him when he suggested that I could get it by cuckolding him with another man. At first I wasn't terribly interested and even a little alarmed by the idea. But that started the wheels turning and it quickly became a fantasy for me, then an obsession.

After months of teasing him about it, it finally happened with a coworker. That was the last time my husband has been allowed out of his chastity device, almost a year ago. Since then I have built a wonderful relationship with this coworker and we see each other regularly. My husband and I couldn't be happier (and hornier).

Anonymous said...

I'm a 35 year old married man. It is indeed difficult if not impossible to stop thinking about cuckolding - I have had this fantasy for years and just can't seem to overcome it. Should I try to overcome it if my wife is totally opposed to it? Can/should my marriage work if we are in a sexless marriage - my wife has LOW sex drive and I have a high sex drive with a very strong desire to be cuckolded. My wife WILL NOT even entertain this thought. Should we try to make the marriage work or is the sex component something that justifies going separate ways? In light of that, how difficult is it to meet a woman who would be likely to be interested in cuckolding me?

Dawn Michael said...
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Dawn Michael said...

The reason that I wrote this article is because I am trying to bring it to the mainstream therapist. Removing the shame around the feeling is the first step. It is difficult to understand that these feeling are a form of erotic sexuality and they dont just go away. When I help couples to open up and communicate about cuckolding, or explain it in terms of what the idea of it is, then there is a start to a discussion. I can help to expain to your spouse about cuckolding and the psychology behind it so it does not seem so unrealistic. Cuckolding can vary from role playing in the bedroom to a life style of cuckolding. Approaching a spouse in a way that is pushing or not done with respect to their feeling will make the matter worse it has to be explained in a way that a person can understand....

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Anonymous said...

I've read all the comments and read up about cuckolding online to try and get as much of a understanding as possible. I have been with my husband for 5 years and he's now obsessed with "wanting" me to cuckold. I thought about it but at the end of the day it was something I'm not interested, i totally enjoy being with my husband. The amount of pressure he puts on the issue is emense, he brings it up daily. Ive expressed my views reasonably any ways to move past this or will this all be a issue? any advice would be helpful.

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Norm said...

To Anonymous (may14): It is good therapy for me to respond to you. Five years ago I discussed with my wife my excitement about her going to see male strip dancers, or us joining a nudist club. This was to get her around nude men. I fantasized about being cuckolded. I was once cuckolded by a previous GF. My wife humoured me for a while, she came to the nudist camp; however she was not interested in the actual cuckold thing. Time has gone by and we never talk about it anymore. Hope this helps.

jerseyjim said...

Hello Dawn. My wife and I have been happily married for 22 years. The sex could have been better but we managed to get by. This past June I underwent Urethral Surgery to repair an old bicycle injury. As a result of this surgery there is a very strong chance that I will never be able to have intercourse with my wife again due to the damage that it may cause my urethra. I mentioned this to her and she said that she will still be happy with me. Now Dawn, I know she loves me and that although I will be able perform orally I don't think it will be the same for her as Intercourse, yes? Well, either way I started thinking about meeting another couple that after friendship perhaps the male partner and my wife could become lovers and he could fill the void that I will be leaving. Do you think there is a better way to handle this. Is seeking a single male friend better for everyone or should I just discuss this with her first and if I do please provide some guidance on how to broach the subject. Thanks

Dawn Michael said...

Hi, yes I do think that you should talk with your wife about this. Tell her how you feel be honest with her, don't push her into anything that she is not comfortable with as it will backfire on you. If you and your wife need help it may be best to set up an appointment, so we can talk about options.

vaman837 said...

I agree that the "how to tell my wife" (or gf) of my wish for her to cuckold me is a delicate matter. When I was married, I also didn't know the word 'cuckold' but my natural instincts caused me to be aroused by the fantasy. I soon found myself talking with my wife during sex, role playing. I would tell her that I am or somebody we both knew. Our sex got to be hotter by this kind of playing. In retrospect, I think that she became rather obsessed with having sex with other men, even before I directly asked her to do it. She was often away on business trips, and I suspect this though never knew for certain. Finally one day after I gave her a present of a sensual massage, she asked me directly if I wanted her to fuck other men. I said 'yes, and coincidentally, within a few days a man whom she had met on a business trip was in town. She checked with me to confirm that this is what I really wanted - and we were on our way. BTW, I was not allowed to go with her to meet him. The key answer for me to some of the questions here is that I recommend using role playing during your own sex, so as to make it easier to get to the big discussion.

vaman837 said...

How to tell my wife...? What worked for me was role playing. Although I didn't plan it that way intentionally, we were having great sex, made even greater by role playing and having fun with it. And as it became more and more fun, it became easy one day to take it to a new level; seemed a natural thing for both of us.

vaman837 said...

I recommend playful role playing with your wife. I did it well before bringing up openly that I wanted her to have sex with another man (I too didn't know the word 'cuckold.') We had much fun talking deliciously dirty talk while fantasizing during our sex. Things evolved slowly, with out forcing, without pressure. It was rather natural when one day she said to me, "Would you really like for me to f..k other men?"

Anonymous said...

Id love to be cuckolded. Most councillors would see it as cheating though and my wife is very conservative about it. Id love to get her to try it once and see if she likes it

Anonymous said...

Thank you Dawn for bringing this to the forefront. We need for counselors like you in this world.

I have been struggling with this for years. My wife knows of my fantasy but they are more mine than hers. I don't know where to go from here. It doesn't go away for me. It was very hard to tell her but I did a few years ago.

As a couple dealing with this I appreciate what you are doing with your work.

I wish there was more people like you out there. Please keep up the good work on bringing this to people to talk openly about it

Anonymous said...

i am writing this comment from Madrid Spain , i apologize for my terrible English.
My lovely wife is sexually hooked with a coworker of hers since last May and have sex on regular basis at his appartment, he is a tall and fit 31 y.old mulato handsome man.I knew about it since middle july and got devastated even when she promissed me she loved me more than ever.She is totally and inconditionally engaged to his sex abilities or better said to his master rules about sex and dominationut and as i had full knowledge of it i wanted her to tell me about the minimum details
of their hours of passion. Now i am not sure if i want them to break apart as i am living on a cloud of jealousy, love,fear,excitation and cuckold desires. NEED ADVICE URGENTLY--- THANK YOU ALL fROM SPAIN

Anonymous said...

My wife and I used to be very open to this. It started when we were young. She was 18 and I was 20. She admitted that she liked bigger men and had always wanted an open relationship, and I had always wanted to be with a woman after she was with someone else and I wanted to watch. She had a few men entertain her, but I didn't get to watch until 3 years later. It was mind blowing. She went from a slow shy start to being very aggressive with him, I joined and watched. More of a threesome than anything. It happened 2 times. Then nothing for 5 years. We would talk about it.during sex to wich she had numerous orgasms. The fantasy always got dirtier and kinkier, but she wouldn't actively do it. Then the day before my 29th b-day she started again. It lasted 3-4 months with 4 seperate men, and was great. I honestly do not think she stopped when she said she did, and the thoughts of it kept me going. But it's back to the same old. One time she had an actual affair, besides the dishonesty and pain, it was a sexual turn on. There are some stories too that I do not doubt, of her and others. I have asked her to have affairs, but to my knowledge, to no avail. I pine for the days she was open and honest with me. The dirty talk does nothing for her anymore it seems. I am curious as to why.

Anonymous said...

I am rather sure that once one tells his wife that he would like to try the cuckolding game she probably will say no, but the seed is planted. At some point over the next 5 to 20 years she is going to be tempted and all her conscious will tell her is "my husband wants this". Getting her to do it is much easier than getting her to share it.

Anonymous said...

My wife and I got into this rather "innocently" some years ago. It started when we invited our new neighbors for dinner to get acquainted, and "get acquainted" we did.

The wife...a thoroughly lovely and sensuous lady...suggested that she and I dance to the music playing on the hi-fi. As we danced, she began leading me around a corner into our kitchen, where our mutual attraction took over and we started kissing, caressing and body-pressing...against each other. What was happening in the living room I know not.

Nothing further ensued that evening but I "managed" to be home the next afternoon at the time the wife had mentioned she would be returning from shopping. And now the plot thickens.

We immediately picked up from the prior evening and soon we were naked together in my wife's and my bed. What happened next can best be described as "orgasmic" and it should be noted that I would have welcomed frequent "repeat performances".

Next, our new friends suggested that they take my wife out for dinner the next evening since I was to be out of town on business. Again nature took over and as the evening progressed they dropped my wife at home and the husband returned to tend to her after dropping his wife off.

Not unlike the attraction of his wife and I, my wife and the husband found strong magnetism and he ended up on top of her on the living room floor with much joy ensuing for both of them. Would that I could recount that this was just the beginning of a long...and very HOT...friendship.

The next chapter involved a weekend for four at our friends' weekend retreat. My wife and I confessed to each other our infidelities but we tried to find a path to continuing it.

However, my wife's "provincial" upbringing weighed heavily on her moral judgments and what started out as some of the hottest sex of my...and admittedly her...life kept getting in the way largely since they wanted to continue with the four of us together in one bed (a modus operandi with which I had no problem as long as it promoted the ultimate objective).

For all the years since then, I have regretted that we couldn't move ahead as envisioned, but the afterglow still burns as my favorite masturbatory fantasy...and my wife...on her back on the floor.... is most often in the starring role.

Such is the magnetic power of cuckoldry.

Anonymous said...

Guys, if you want it to happen, you definitely have to go slow with it. And you obviously can't be mad if she doesn't share the same interest in it as you do. Me and my wife started out with toys. She had this big dildo (bigger than my penis) and eventually she started having me use it on her. We would fantasize that it was another guy having sex with her. Eventually, I told her that I thought it would be so hot if she ACTUALLY did have sex with another man. She wasn't so sure about it at first. But the more we played out the fantasy with the dildo, the more she was turned on by the idea. One night she went out with a group of her girlfriends to a bar and a cute guy was hitting on her all night. We were texting each other back and forth the whole time, and she was kind of teasing me, saying she was dancing with the guy and making out with him. We were both really turned on and she asked if the guy could come home with her. So while I slept on the couch, I heard them both come through the door and I listened to them having sex all night long. It made our sex life so much more intense and we can't wait to play out the scenario again in future

Anonymous said...

I live in Ireland and I can tell you that this fantasy applies in my country just the same as everywhere else.Before marrying my wife I explained to her that this was a very strong fantasy of mine and although I could not explain it in rational terms that it in no way meant that I loved her any less because of it.She was totally understanding about this however I feel strongly that you need to have a very solid marriage before going down this road.Once a year I will film her in a hotel with the other man and this allows me to relive the experience endlessly.

Anonymous said...

Please be careful to think things through before asking your wife to allow you to see her having sex with other men.Altough this is a widespread fantasy and in my own experience can be amazingly exciting I still think its important to make sure your relationship is rock solid and secure before even thinking about it.I offer this to all of you for your consideration and aded enjoyment.

Anonymous said...

I never had the guts to tell my wife. I was very unhappy with my marriage so we went into couples counseling to save what we had. The therapist happened to be a female friend of my wife and after a couple of sessions apart i told the therapist what my feelings were and that i was too afraid to tell my wife. The therapist suggested she would do it for me and tell my wife during her next therapy session. Luckily this therapist
had a lot of counselling experience in sexual matters like SM and cuckolding.
I agreed and she told my wife which i considered a huge favor. Knowing my wife was going to search the internet, i told this therapist to tell my wife that i felt nothing at all for chastity locks and belts. I also told her to tell my wife not to confront me with it or ask me for permission but just go ahead and fuck other men. It was a huge gamble that turned out to be a winner.
I remember the day my wife came home from the therapist with a smile on her face and she just hugged me. That evening she was sitting behind a computer going through the adult adverts and she told me to come and help her choose a big black meaty cock for her. We had great fun judging these penisses together and we finally settled for a tall and black highschool footballer who was hung like a horse.
two days later we met in a cheap motel and he fucked her brains out while i hold her hand and whispered in her ear over and over again how much i loved her and respected her for taking this big black cock inside her wet pussy.
She in turn whispered to me how good this big blak cock felt inside her.
They fucked for half an hour and then again for an hour while i enjoyed the spectacle from all angles and distances.
I have never seen my wife so happy and satisfied. Afterwards she had a smile on her face for over a week.
We keept seeing the therapist separately once a month to talk about our progress and how to spice things up and go one step further. The therapist would convey my wishes to my wife and my wife's wishes to me to take into consideration. I did not want to order or ask my wife directly since this would give me some control which i did not want. She was in control and i was the cuckold. The therapist helped us a lot and since she was a friend of my wife she would regularly come over for dinner at our house where she and my wife would playfully tease me for being a cuckold. This aroused me a lot. Eventually they just became mean to me and they regularly made me take off all my clothes and jerk myself off in front of them while they laughed. I noticed that my friend's wife the therapist was especially mean to me; she would stick a dildo up my ass and make me walk around while they drank tea.
This therapist was not married and she slept around with men of all races. She liked what me and my wife had and said she could help us by bringing some of her black friends to fuck my wife on the condition that she could watch me suffer and order me around while my wife was getting fucked in all holes.
We agreed and when it finally happened one weekend, it was such a joy.
When we entered the bedroom she made my undress my wife and the bull. after that she ordered me to suck the bull hard and put his cock inside my wife's pussy. My wife and her bull fucked for hours while the therapist was fucking me with a dildo in my ass beside the bed. I still get a hard one thinking about that night and all the other nights!
This therapist literally saved our marriage and set my wife an i on a path of sexual bliss for the rest of our lives. We now have build up a list full of BBC's to choose from and to phone every weekend and my relationship with my wife couln't be better!

Anonymous said...

I hardly think it likely that any therapist would allow themselves to become directly involved with a couple in this way.

Anonymous said...

I have only recently been introduced to the concept of cuckolding through a man I am dating. To begin with it seemed rather straight forward,and I decided this is something I might like to try, however he has since introduced the notion of fantasizing about me forcing him to give oral sex to my lover, and forcing him to eat the semen my lover leaves on me. I am left wondering if this is truly cuckolding or is this guy simply confused about his sexuality and hoping that by being "forced" he is able to fulfill his fantasies without the guilt and shame of it being within his own hands? I really need some advice before embarking on this journey and deciding whether I am open to this level of exploration. Obviously this is quite a touchy subject to raise, and I want to understand before I talk too openly about it with him any further. Also out of interest, is cuckolding typically something that always becomes a lifestyle, or is there a chance that this could simply be a case of wanting to fulfill a fantasy once?

Anonymous said...

as a married man who feels very strong urges to clean up after another man has emptied into my wife all i can advise you is that this does not mean confused sexuality.i googled "sperm competition"and it may help to understand this if you were to maybe check that.Once i entered my wife immediately after another man had filled her with his sperm and i can honestly say i have never had such a climax in my life.its amazing

Anonymous said...

The year is now 2013 and cuckolding is mainstream. When in a hotel room with your wife, while she is getting dressed- "honey I'm embarrased to share this fantasy"
She may just laugh and say what is it with you guys. "Rita's husband begs he to date other guys". Then make it clear it is one way only, she dates, you stay at home. One you share this fantasy, it will happen. It is then the begging of a beautiful relationship.

Anonymous said...

Many cuckolds desire humiliation that's part of the act however this can be taken to different levels. I'm a married man in my mid forties as is my wife. She knows I look at cuckold sites and is well aware of my sissy adult baby side. I wear nappies, plastic pants and frilly pink satin panties most nights and often a pink baby doll nightie.
We tend to sleep in separate bedrooms because I work shifts. I would never ask her to cuckold me but I fantasize about being cuckolded whilst dressed in my frilly baby clothes. How common is it for cuckold's to want to be dressed in frilly panties or baby girl clothes? Have any therapists ever come across this form of fetish or cuckold lifestyle?

Anonymous said...

I am women that started this lifestyle quite by accident.I have read alot about cuckholding,swingers ,hotwives etc.Im not sure if I fit any of these catagories.My husband are in our early fifties and have been married for 25 years.I love him very much and want to be with him the rest of my life but....he,s never been able to satify me sexully.Hes a very sensitive man that is not very macho,in fact I have always thought he has a female side.We discussed the idea of me having a boyfriend and was supportive.I started going out with a guy from work.A lot of the hot clothes I own my husband bought me years ago.He loves to help me pick an outfit that turns him on and I love it.I still have a good body and like to show it off.Last weekend for my date I wore a short very tight skirt with a revealing top,and we found a pair turquoise high heel slides that We found in a shoe box up in my closet that are so sexy as I go clicking out the door.My husband waits up for and is happy to have me discribe what a night we had.

Anonymous said...

I read this thread and wanted to add my story to the mix, even though it does not end up in a cuck relationship.

First some background. My wife and I are in our early fifties and have been married for 25 years. We have always had a good sex life and I have had fantasies of watching her have sex with other men for a very long time. The funny thing is that it came up one night a few years ago very accidentally.

About five years ago I finally made the decision that I was going to tell her how I felt and see what she said. We were out on our back porch having a few drinks and started taking a stroll down memory lane, discussing people that we had known and what they were doing now. We were discussing one couple that we had known and how sad it was that the wife had died young in a car accident. Then she said, "You know, before Lisa died Randy asked me out on a date". At first I was very surprised but when she told me how it happened I began to understand..

The jist of it is that he found out that his wife was having an affair and I was working 60 hours a week. They knew each other casually through me and as fate would have it Randy and my wife both ended up going solo to a mutual friend's barbeque. They ended up sitting together and discussing how they were both unhappy in their marriages. One thing lead to another and at the end of the night they kissed and agreed to go on a date. All of this totally blew my mind, but I discovered that even though I was a tad upset, I was also very aroused. My wife told me that she got cold feet on the day of the date and backed out. I figured that this was the perfect time to bring up my fantasy, but boy did that backfire! She got pissed off and said she had told me because she felt guilty about it, not because she thought it would turn me on. I dropped the subject and didn't bring it up again for a very long time.

Now fast forward a couple of years. One night we were watching an adult movie that turned out to be completely boring. Just as I was about to turn it off a scene came on involving a white nurse caring for a wounded black soldier. My wife said "Wait, let's watch this part". As you have probably guessed, the scene turned her on so much that I began fingering her and when she came she actually quivered inside. I'd never felt that before and it was amazing. She admitted that she'd been having fantasies about other men, but told me that she'd never do it for real. Even though she said that, I began suspecting that under the right conditions she would go for it.

Now for the bad stuff...one night about two months later we were again on the back porch having a few drinks and I mentioned my fantasy again. This time she got kind of playful about it and said "You know I could do it if I wanted to. I see guys checking me out". Then she dropped the bombshell. "But if I did, you'd never know about it, and I might end of falling in love with the guy and if that happened I'd divorce you and be with him."

Yikes! That's not what I wanted at all! I told her that and she said that if I was willing to risk our marriage then she would go for it. I immediately dropped the subject of doing this for real and have not brought it up again.

We do, from time to time, talk about the "other man" scenario in our role playing fantasies but I will never again bring up the subject of taking that fantasy into the real world.

My point is that it's a fun fantasy, but that's all it will ever be for us. There's a big difference between having fun between the two of us and bringing someone else into our bedroom. As one poster put it, be careful what you wish for. BTW, most of those stories you read about people actually enjoying cuck relationship are just that...stories. Don't be fooled by this "everyone is doing it" mentality.

I hope you enjoyed the story and I hope my situation shed some light on what you can expect. Peace out!

SwingySwong said...

It's so true that it should be approached with great caution. I for one, am a "light cuckold". As in, I do get excited watching my girlfriend getting pounded, but I also like to participate and live an equal relationship , enjoy time together and sex together. I don' t like being deprived of sex. I also like having threesomes with two girls as well. So I'm not really a pure cuckold I suppose. Surprisingly though my gf is within the tiny minority of women that actually are open and excited by the idea but she's loyal, faithful and an amazing person and knows that what she's doing is going to be fun for both of us. The best way for us is to alternate each other's humilations. I simply tested the waters, tried to bring the topic on by talking hypothetically, especially about celebrities. At first she kept denying because she wanted to protect my feelings probably, which is admirable. But one day she mentioned having another girl join us and I just said we should have a guy join us also out of fairness. She was really excited and flattered. But this requires an open minded, mature woman. The best approach is caution.

Anonymous said...

We are well past the telling stage. Here's an example of a recent evening:

My wife's lover deposited his sperm on her tummy just above her mound. She then asked me to switch places with him. I was happy she wanted me too. But before I could get inside her, she scooped up his cum, applied it to the head of my cock and insisted I push it into her open pussy, one stroke at a time until I had pushed all his sperm into her cunt. I still thought she would let me cum in her too. But she stopped me and made me get off her. Then she let her lover go for a second, third and fourth round, not me. I was just allowed, after each round, the responsibility of pushing more of his cum inside her. He left satisfied. She left me hard.

We are very happy together and mutually agree to these experiences. Our life and sex life has never been nearly this exciting.

Anonymous said...

My signicant other kept role playing with me. After a while I felt like I was having sex with other men all the time. Then when I inevitably met a creep who wanted to get in my pants I just let him! It was hot!

Anonymous said...

I discovered my wife had sex with a close friend of mine. We had planned dinner with him at our home when I got called away for work. She accidentally left her damp patties in the living room for me to discover after I got home late. I also found a slick wetness in our bed when I joined her already sleeping. They don't know I know. I got angry at first, then curious, and now I am constantly aroused by it. Lately, I have to work to avoid becoming aroused when we are all together. Now what? Does that make me a cuckold? Last night he was over for beverages. He hugged her close when he arrived and gave him a nice warm and friendly kiss. There was so much sexual tension in the room. I actually tried to find ways to leave them alone in the living room for several minutes at a time. The evening went on but with little more than a suggested atmosphere of attraction between them. I could tell they were ready to jump each other. When he left he thanked us for a great night then turned to her as she was offering him another hug. Wow. He actually gave her a serious hug and she gave him a longer warmer kiss. He left. She went to bed. I joined her in a few minutes. I afraid to tell her how turned on I was from watching. Even more afraid she see for herself. She was asleep.

vancouvercuckie said...

I have been with my girlfriend for going on 5 years. She is from an concervitave east indian back ground..when we started dating she was having sex with another guy as well..she stopped seeing him and was exclusive with me. We used to have sex 2-3 times a day..fast forward to last year..she stopped having any interest in a sex life with me..she will intentionally set me up saying she wants to have sex then will find somthing to be overtly mad about the shut down any chance of sex for the night..after this playing out for 6months or so i asked her one night if she was happy with our sexlife..she paused and said ya..i told her i couldnt help but notice how it has really changed going from sex 2-3 times a day to once ot twice a month..she got a bit mad..i told her in all honesty that i would be alright if she wanted to have sex with another guy seeing as how she didnt seem to want me anymore..i told her that i want her to know that she is in complete control of her sexual freedome..she said that she would feel like she was cheating on me and that culturally it was wrong..i told her that the thought of her with another man was very hot and that when we first started dating i loved it when she told me about the other guy and how he fucked her..she would wait to sleep with me for 24hrs after him and she would always shower..fast forward to this year..
Still sex 1-2 times a month tops..she has become more secrative with her phone..deleting texts and i noticed she had been using a yahoo email because she forgot to clear the yahoo sign in from tthe computer history..noticing this i have told her that i wnt her to cuckold me but she pretended she didnt hear...i also intentionally didnt clear some cuckolding pics from my tablet..now..im below average in penis size at 5 inchs and a bit thinner than a toilet paper tube..lol..i enjoy small penis humiliation and love it when she locks me in chastity..
I was at work last month during the day and while talking to her on the phone she said that she wanted sex tonight..i joked and said..with me or a booty call? She got mad and changed the topic..before we got off the phone i asked if we were still on for sex tonight and she said if i wasnt gonna be dumb..i got home from work around 8 made dinner and was on "good behaviour"
I had noticed she had a recent shower as she had told me earlier in the day she had a shower..she said her head was itchy so that was why..as the night progressed she shut me down for sex again after picking a fight over something trivial..the next day she instigated sex..when i entered her she felt losser as if she had a thicker man recently..now as i said we dont have sex often at all so it was noticable.
I went down on her and could still smell mint condom :-) and we dont use condoms..the next day i dropped another hint and told her that i thought she should have a f-buddy..she got offfended that i wanted to share her and i said that i will always love her i just want her to be happy..she brought it up in conversation the other day again and i told her again that i think its hotand that im ok with her doing it..she acted half offended and changed the subject..
How can i make this happen? Do you think it already has?

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