Friday, October 15, 2010

Why a husband does not listen to his wife

When counseling woman about their marriage often times they will say that their husbands do not listen to them and yes many of them are correct, but it’s all in the approach and how a man thinks. Men and women do not think the same way that is a fact. When questioning women on this problem, many times the wife will say that she tells her husband how she feels and he begins to just tune her out or tell her how to fix it. The truth of the matter is that when a woman tells a man a problem he wants to fix it and when he comes to the conclusion that he can’t, many times he will begin to just tune her out. This has nothing to do with the fact that he does not care or love his wife but his mind just does not work that way.

When a wife wants to talk to her husband about a problem that she needs help with, she must understand that he is a great person to trouble shoot with, but not to sympathize or just listen to a complaint this is better left for a chat with a girlfriend. Women can listen to one another without having to fix the problem; men can too, but only for a short period of time. A man also feels like he is not helping his wife by not resolving the situation and this makes him feel useless and frustrated. Women don’t tell your problems to your husband just to talk, be prepared for resolution, if that’s not what you want then talk to a friend instead. A wife knowing this about a man in general will help her to better understand that their husbands love her but is just not capable of that type of communication for long periods of time.

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