Couples who play together stay together, sex play that is!

Couples adult toy recommendation for the month is the new We-Vibe 4

If you are looking to get a special gift for your special someone why not give the gift that keeps on giving all year long......

The We-Vibe 4 has been completely redesigned for a better fit, more speeds and more control.

The We-Vibe 4 was designed to fit the female body for even better stimulation to the clitoris and the G-spot. So, she is able to feel more vibration and pleasure during penetrative sex, while he has fun with the remote control!!

Yes I did say remote control, that is what makes this adult sex toy so much fun, is that he can control her pleasure with a click of a button.  The ultimate tease in sex toy design.....

As a clinical sexologist I recommend adult toys to my clients to enhance their love life and this is one toy that will not only give her please but him as well.  Part of the joy of sex is the tease and playfulness that couples can share together.  The remote option with this toy is just that!  A way to tease the woman, until she has shivers up her spine and down her leg.

How it functions: 
 
The curved clitoral stimulator gently rests between the labia, while the stiff mid-section of the toy ensures a snug fit (which also makes it a great panty vibe!). The redesigned G-spot stimulator sits in place behind the pelvic bone, up and out of the way providing plenty of room for the penis. The new design increases stability and comfort because of its smaller size. Both partners experience extra pleasure.  The toy can also be used during sex for extra stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot, while he feels vibration on his penis.


Click on toy to order and enjoy the holiday throughout the year. 

How do you feel about an open marriage?

After doing my own research on the topic of open marriage for a few years now, I have gathered information that I feel may be helpful on this complex topic. I was asked to give my opinion on the Ricki Lake show as an advocate for open marriage, but what I though was missing out of the discussion was the concept of what an open marriage really is.

Do I personally think that an open marriage is practical, no I do not think that it is practical.  Do I think that an open marriage can work for some couples, yes I do, but for how long and how many will last in the marriage? 

For the couples that go into a marriage with the idea that it is an open marriage from the beginning have a better chance at maintaing this type of relationship.  Couples that are already married and then at one point a spouse wants to introduce open marriage this type of marriage is less likely to work.  One reason why this may come about is because one spouse is usually unhappy in the marriage and is desiring a change.

The decision to make an already momogmous marriage open should not be taken lightly, as there are many factors involved.  One factor that I brough about on the Ricki Lake Show was the idea of exposing children to an open marriage, many times adults don't even get the concept, let alone a child being introdued to a lover.  Open marriages of any type are best left for adult knowledge only, not involving the family life.  One couple on the show that was interviewed, was introding their lovers to family members and the children as well.  With open marrige being as complicated as it is there is no reason to involve anyone else in the matter.  Adult time should be just that left to the couple and whom ever they may want to involve in their private lives.

When couples seak counsling with me to explore the idea of open marriage, one of my conversations is about boundaries, rules, open communication and the willingnes to work on the marrige before venturing out and adding a new partner into the mix.

For any questions or comments on the topic please leave your opinion!

 

I caught my husband watching porn

As a clinical sexologist and relationship counselor I have received many calls from women who have caught their husband watching porn on the computer. They would tell me that they ended up getting in a huge fight with him and now they think that he must be addicted and he needs my help.  After I have had them take a few deep breaths I try to explain things to them in a different light.

This is what I say!

"Put your immediate reactions aside and be smarter than your husband about this.  Just because your husband is watching porn does not mean that he does not love you, or think that you are not attractive, what it means is that he is either using it as stress release or he has some sexual fantasy that he is not able to share with you in the bedroom and is playing it out on his own.  Most of the husbands that are watching porn are not addicted, in fact very few really are "addicted"  it is just a very easy way to get off without the stress of performance, pleasing you, or as I stated living some fantasy that he cannot with you."

I then explain to them, 

"The best solution to this situation is not to freak out and shut your husband off, but instead pull up a chair next to him and see what he is watching.  Ask him about it, open the door for communication about what he likes about the porn.  Many times this in itself will be such a huge relief to your husband, whom for the most part would rather live his fantasy out with you or at least be open with you rather then hide it.  This may change the direction of the marriage with better lines of communication between the two of you.

What happens is the opposite affect with men, if a woman can go with the flow, he may let her into his sex life even more and feel that now he does not have to experience it alone or go out and cheat in the marriage. 

There is one thing that I can guarantee most women, and that is by shaming your husband or demanding that he stop watching the porn it will only make him hide and sneak even more. Make it an opportunity to grow in your marriage rather then a time to shut your husband down, be smart about it, pull up that chair and see what he is watching and how he is masturbating himself, take notes and practice in the bedroom next time, there is nothing like the real thing, be his wife but also be his lover!

For intimacy counseling with Dawn Michael visit The Happy Spouse