Dr. Dawn Michael clinical sexologist and intimacy counselor will dish out the facts on what you need to know about sex.
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Why does sex stop after marriage for some couples
marriage is on the rise, 50% of all marriages end in divorce and the
remaining couples that do hang on more than half of them live in a sexless
What is a sexless marriage?
can be defined as a marriage where the couple has little to no sex
every month, or in several months. This is not due to an illness or sudden
event but a natural rhythm that happens over time in a marriage.
are a few main causes for sexless marriage, but also some proactive solutions to prevent it.
Men and women both have equal sex drives, but at different times of
the day and the month. A women's sex drive varies throughout the month
with highs and lows depending on ovulation and menstruation. Men vary
throughout a day with their testosterone levels being the highest in the
morning and then decreasing towards the evening. As men age they also
go through a gradual decline in testosterone and move into the quality
of the sexual experience rather than the frequency.
women approach sex in different ways as well, for women sexual intimacy
starts outside the bedroom, whereas with most men they can move right
into sex if turned on. When
looking at sex in a marriage it is more than the act of intercourse, it
is the act of sexual intimacy, two people sharing a special bond.
Sexual intimacy is a feeling that goes along with sex and when the
couple is sexually satisfied with each other they will also feel sexual
intimacy. In a woman’s monthly cycle she will go through times when she
is more sexually attracted to her mate, this is when a woman should
approach her husband and initiate the sex. Part of the problem for many
couples is that men are the ones expected to initiate the sex, but it
should be equal.
For men because the level of testosterone is at its peak in the morning,
sex in the morning instead of later at night may be a better time for
couples. This is where couples
often make a mistake in love making; sometimes morning sex is the best
sex, especially after a long day for both a man and a women where the
may be a time of sleep. Once recharged in the morning it may be the
for making love. Romance at night can mean hot sex in the morning,
have a sexy date night, a good nights rest and then wake up to morning
One main reason for sexless marriage is
the concept that once married sex is a given, and it no longer takes
work and that is a sad mistake. Keeping the sex exciting and not boring
in marriage does take effort but make it fun, sexy, and erotic. Couples
that have a great sexual relationship will
have less to argue about and the little thing usually will go away. If
you are in a sexless marriage get help, sexual is natural, normal,
healthy, and should be enjoyable! With all the wonderful hormones
released through mutual orgasm, it can be the glue that keeps the
marriage together. If find that your marriage has become sexless then do something about it before it is to late!