Sunday, May 26, 2013

Why masturbating in front of your spouse can be a turn on

The benefits of mutual masturbation can increase the intimacy and passion with your spouse!



There are many reasons why mutual masturbation in a marriage can help with creating deeper intimacy in the relationship.  One of the biggest misconceptions in a relationship is that your partner understands your body better than you.  This is far from the truth, we are all responsible for our own pleasure and showing our partner how to give us that pleasure is the first step to more passion.  One effective way of achieving this is by masturbating in front of them.

When I counsel couples I provide them with home exercises that they can do together. One of the exercises is to watch each other self pleasure themselves.  When the couple reports back to me in our next session many will say that at first it was a bit uncomfortable but once they got past those feelings they were able to enjoy themselves.  A part of the exercise was for the person watching to give positive feed back so as to make the experience comfortable and enjoyable.  A great way to get started if one feels uncomfortable is to place a blind fold over their eyes, so they are able to concentrate and block out any distractions.  Another technique is to get a favorite sex toy and use it as a way to masturbate.  The idea is to show your partner how to please you.  Most couples reported that they enjoyed watching the other person masturbate and it was a big turn on for them as well.

One couple reported that while watching the other person masturbate it got them so excited that they had climaxed as well and now use mutual masturbation as a part of foreplay.  One husband who said that he struggled for years not being able to get his wife to orgasm, now understood by watching her what he needed to do to really get her turned on.  Bill says "Now that I know what turns my wife on and I am able to do that for her it has changed our sex life dramatically"

Cindy reported,  "I was completely surprised by my reaction watching my husband Tony stoke himself.  There was something very sex about him taking control of himself and reaching climax on his own."  Other women have reported as well that they were surprised that they would enjoy watching their husbands masturbate.

One reason for this turn on in both men and women is the idea of them taking control of their own pleasure and enjoying it in front of them.  "There was something intimate about my spouse losing control and allowing me to be a part of that intimate moment."




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