Saturday, June 8, 2013

Sex play without intercourse to create better intimacy

Teasing and playing during sex play is often over shadowed by the end game of intercourse, making the whole experience center around the act itself.  For couples that can go beyond the boundaries of traditional sex, they can understand and enjoy the experience of sex play.  When I counsel couples often times I will have them do home assignments where they are not suppose to have intercourse and instead get to know each others bodies together on a whole different level.

This is also a great exercise for any couple that experiences erectile dysfunction or even female lack of orgasm.  Making the sex focused on the experience of touching, playing and bringing each other to orgasm without intercourse.  This allows a partner with performance anxiety to move past that and just focus on being in the moment.

After a few home assignments couples begin to create the intimacy that may have been lost and learn how to connect on a deeper level so then when they do eventually bring intercourse back into the sex then it is just be part of meal on the dinner table, but not the main course.

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