Sex play without intercourse to create better intimacy

Teasing and playing during sex play is often over shadowed by the end game of intercourse, making the whole experience center around the act itself.  For couples that can go beyond the boundaries of traditional sex, they can understand and enjoy the experience of sex play.  When I counsel couples often times I will have them do home assignments where they are not suppose to have intercourse and instead get to know each others bodies together on a whole different level.

This is also a great exercise for any couple that experiences erectile dysfunction or even female lack of orgasm.  Making the sex focused on the experience of touching, playing and bringing each other to orgasm without intercourse.  This allows a partner with performance anxiety to move past that and just focus on being in the moment.

After a few home assignments couples begin to create the intimacy that may have been lost and learn how to connect on a deeper level so then when they do eventually bring intercourse back into the sex then it is just be part of meal on the dinner table, but not the main course.

For more information on intimacy counseling go to www.thehappyspouse.com

Erotic novel book review "Secrets" volume 10 by Dawn Michael

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Turn up the heat because this erotic novel is sizzling hot for women, couples and men. 
This is not a new novel but one that I sex counselor will recommend to my clients who may need a little help in spiceing up their sex life.  The book has four short stories in it and one of my favorites is the one call The Sacrifice by Kathryn Anne Doubois.  For any woman who needs to feel the desire again this is a wonderful book to heat up the passion in your own body.  The book can also be read to each other as a couple, including role play and teasing.

One expert form the book
"The Sacrifice"
The story is about Anastasia Bedovier a young lady who has taken vows of chastity to become a nun.  Before she denies her sensuality forever, she is taken to the Count Maxwells house of pleasure to test her strength of sexual desire.  She is shown scenes of lusty women with men and touched in places that no man has touched before, leaving her with thoughts and feeling that are of shame and pleasure mixed together.

To hear the chapter being read go to The Happy Spouse Adult Show blogtalkradio titled "mind sex"
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thehappyspouse

To have your book read for review contact Dawn Michael dawn@thehappyspouse.com

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Sex play with submission and domination in your marriage

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Sex play using domination and submission has been an erotic sexual act that has been around for centuries.

Couples using role play during sex creating a scene where domination and submission can be role played out in a safe environment. Many couples find it enjoyable to add sex play in their marriage, especially when it comes to domination and submission. One way to ease a partner into this form of role playing is to act out each others fantasies taking on a new character, becoming someone else. The top can be the man or the woman meaning the domme. The roles can be switched been couples with the man be submissive and the woman being dominant the other way around.

Adding fun sex toys to the mix can be fun, and there are many beginners’ bondage kits available, from fun furry cuffs with feathers and duster, to more hard core paddles, masks, and other bondage apparatus.

The Domme can be either the man or the women in the marriage and many times men are willing to allow their wives to take over, and be in charge.

Women also love to be taken by their husbands so the roles can be change.d The one point is that both of you are truly enjoying each other and the experience of the sexual act.

When beginning to get into the submissive sex play, take the time to communicate a “word” that means to stop or a safe word as they call it. Taking on the role of the Domme can certainly bring out the animal in anyone so make sure to play it safe. 

For more information on this subject or to learn how to work it into your relationship contact sex counselor Dawn Michael

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Couples Who Play Together Stay Together

The concept of couples who play together stay together is one of the main ingredients in a successful relationship. 

Couples over time forget the concept of play in a marriage or long term relationships. 

 Play is a wonderful concept, because it can mean so many different things to a couple.  Play may come about in an activity that the couple enjoys together or laughter together.

The most important part of play in a relationship though, is sex play in the relationship.  Sex play is wonderful because the couple can bring the fun back into the bedroom and add an element of excitement to the relationship.

Sex play between couples can be:

1. Wrestling with one another:  Play wresting with one another can bring out the fun and relieve the built up sexual tension.

2.   Role playing with one another can be a lot of fun, making a scene and role playing it in bed.

3.  Sexy fun outside of the bedroom, playfull sexy fun, kissing, rubbing against each other, making out.

 4. Telling each other erotic stories.

 5.  Watching erotic videos with each other.

Sex play and fun play with other types of play is important in a relationships, it is what keeps the couple not only young but the relationship exciting and fresh.