Submissive Cuckold Man

For years I have been personally working with men concerning their cuckold fetish and I noticed that many of the men also wanted to be submissive to their wives in their fantasy.  The man himself is generally not submissive in daily life but when it deals wit his sexual fantasy of being a cuckold he does want his wife to control his orgasm as well as be submissive to the other man.

In this sexual fantasy the man (husband) desires his wife to have sex with another man that typically has a larger penis than his, as well as his race be black.  Many times this need or desire comes from an incident of him being cheated on at some point in his life with a girlfriend or wife and then taking that pain of losing her and it becoming the sexual fetish of cuckold.  The video goes into more depth on this matter.

Another aspect of the submissive male is the fact that he wants this other man to sexually please his wife yet be in love with her husband and never leave him because she is sexually satisfied and he is providing her the pleasure.  In many cases this is where his fantasy if it become reality has many pit falls and the biggest one is that his wife falls in love with the other man and leaves him.

The submissive cuckold man may want to watch his wife have sex with the "bull" other man informant of him or hear about it at a later time.  Most submissive men also like to be a part of the sexual situation at a time and even be submissive to the bull himself.  This can involve fluffing, punishment, Chasity belts and pleasing the other man.  Occasionally a submissive cuckold man will  also have a penis fetish as will, which can cause much confusion to him about his sexual preference.  In most cases the fantasy rarely equates into real life and along the way the women have said that they don't understand how their husband can be in love with them and want them to have sex with another man.  In the video we go into more detail on this, and how a man can approach his wife so as not to destroy the marriage.

If you are a man struggling with this it is import to seek help.
This article was written by certified clinical sexologist Dr. Dawn Michael
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Tie Him up, Control and Tease him with your SEXY BODY

Fifty Shade of Grey, opened the door for other topics to be brought to light, such as Fifty Shades of Gretta the woman who dominated her man (not a real book yet).  We forget to see that sex play is more then Fifty Shades and can be played out in hundreds of ways.  As a clinical sexologist I help men and couples with their sex lives. For some men it is a freeing experience for them to accept their submissive side and learn to enjoy it. 

Is it really that strange that a man would enjoy being dominate by a woman at least some of the time?


When a woman sexually dominates a man, it can take the pressure off of him to perform sexually and give him the freedom to just enjoy the experience.  In my new book Intimacy Guidebook for Couples one of the exercises that I recommend for couples is to take turns being in control of the sexual experience.  One night she can control him and the next night he may decide to control her or ask her to take over again...........

The exercise works well because it gives the couple permission to play outside the normal sexual routine that they many have fallen into.  When a woman takes control over a man she can push her own sexual boundaries as well, feeling how it is to tell her man what to do, or perhaps just do what she pleases to him sexually.

When a woman controls the man sexually, he is giving himself to her and trusting that she will take care of him even if she decides to spank, peg or cane him, she still has to be responsible for his safety.  What may appear to be the woman in control it really about the trust and her taking care of him while she is sexually pleasing herself. 

For the next round of sexual play why not tie him up, control and tease him with your sexy body, click the LELO picture to view some sexy straps......!

Why high powered executive men choose to be submissive in bed

There is an absolute correlation in men and high powered jobs that are responsible for being in charge during the day that want to let go and be taken control of during sex or at least not have to always be the one initiating.  

The complete loss of control and submission to a woman in the bedroom, takes the pressure off of the sexual situation and gives the man the ability to relax and enjoy the sexual experience.  This type of submission can take on many different degrees of submissive behavior, depending on the man.  I have worked with men in my practice for many years and some range from erection problems, orgasm issues, or simply lack of intellectual erotic stimulation to more harsh discipline, including denial of orgasm, chastity and forms of cuckolding.

The correlation even goes beyond the boardroom so to speak and into the mind of many of these men. 

The idea of "normal" sex is not enough to stimulate their minds which is the biggest sex organ in the body, with the penis coming next.  When a man is dominated by a woman and put in a submissive position, he is not only out of control but left guessing what is in store for him, leaving him with all types of situations that can happen.  The idea of pain and punishment is also part of the brain that located in the amygdala fight or flight that can be arousing adding the extra adrenalin to kick in making the experience all that more exciting.

For a woman who is married to a man that has hented about her taking control of him in the bedroom, make it a point to enquire more about it.  If he is asking it means that he has already been thinking about it, and if you are not going to be the one to step in and at least play, he will find another way to explore his submissive side.  One way to eaise into the situation with your husband would be to take charge of the sex in your marriage from time to time, initating the sex play and telling him what to do.  You may be surprised at how delighted and obedient he will become.  As I stated there are different degrees of submissive that men like some being more extreme than others, but as a couple you can play around and explore together the possibilities rather than him exploring it with another women.

For some women this may sound like a completely strange example but I have know women to put their man in a maids apron butt naked, and demand that he clean the house then, come back to the bedroom and give her a foot massage.  May sound far fetched to some, but a women who really understands the concept and
can play, may enjoy her marriage all that much more!

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