Married Men Sex Survey-Results

In our society there is a myth that men don't like it when a woman takes over in the bedroom.  In hope of demystifying this myth and help couples to improve their sex lives, I set out on a journey to get information from men around the world.  As I gather information for my new book I will share it with you to gain more insight on this myth.  As a means to gather more information about sex in marriage, please feel free to leave comments and join this blog to get new updated surveys and results.    Those of you who took the survey, I want to thank-you! 

Now is the time to leave your comment and expand on your questions.  As you read the results below, it becomes very clear that most of the men do like it when their wife initiates sex.  For women reading this article I am hopeful that this information will help you to better understand your husband.  The other overwhelming answers that most men agree with is that they would like their wife to initiate sex more often.  They felt that their wives wanted to initiate sex but may be shy about asking for it. 

In my new book "My Husband Wont Have Sex With Me"  We discuss some possible reasons why men may get turned off or frustrated with sex in marriage, leading to cheating or watching pornography instead of dealing with the continued rejection of their spouse.  For women who may think that men don't like women to initiate this is not true as most men do.  Men want to know how to please their wives and a woman expressing this to them is a huge turn on!
As far as men watching pornography most men would rather have sex with their wives, but will turn to pornography when their wives are not available.  This was the result for the below question "I would like to have sex everyday with my wife, but when we don't I use porn to satisfy myself and she knows about it."   29%

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A Couples Guide to Better Sexual Intimacy

"As I laid down in my bed next to him, I could feel the warmth of his body against mine, it had been so long since we made love to each other.  The sad fact is I think we both just forgot how to be with one another."

"After my wife had our son, it seemed as though all of her attention was placed on him and somehow she had forgotten how to be my wife.  I longed for her to touch me again, to desire me again.  I just don't know how to approach about this anymore, please help!"

 

If these comments sound familiar to you then "A Couples Guide to Better Sexual Intimacy", can help you get the sexual intimacy back into your relationship.

Dr. Dawn Michael, ACS created the guidebook to help individuals and couples learn how to work together to create more intimate, loving connections with each other while at the same time improving their sex lives. After years of working with couples, Dr. Michael felt that using traditional therapeutic tools did not address the sexual issues that many couples were experiencing in their relationships. Most traditional therapeutic approaches, however, focused on the problem rather than the solution. She saw the need to develop a guide that would enable couples to open up about their sex lives. She understood that, for many couples, once the intimate connection was gone, the little things in the relationship became more of a problem. Couples could talk for hours about what they were upset about, but when it came down to hurt feelings, it usually was about the lack of intimacy in their relationship along with the skills to communicate those feelings. 

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Understating The Cycle of Sexual Aging Associated with Sexual Function

Oftentimes individuals are not aware of the natural sexual changes that the body goes through as it ages.  Some individuals view this as lack of sexual desire or a newly developed sexual dysfunction.

For men the function of the penis changes from adolescents until a man is in his later years. A man in  his twenties, gets erections from any type of stimulation. He can get an erection when the “wind blows”, as the old saying goes. The power and speed of his ejaculation can literally send his semen across the room, or for some guys on the ceiling.


As men age mental stimulation and direct penile stimulation are necessary in helping to maintain an erection, and sexual interest with their partner, “Variety is the spice of life.” 

Some men begin to think that there is something wrong with them sexually because what used to turn them on or how they achieved an erection does not work the same way for them anymore. They start to think that they have a sexual problem, when in reality it is quite normal.  With other men that may have gotten a divorce and begin to date again, and have some problems getting an erection, maintaining an erection or even having an orgasm, this is also very normal. Talking to a professional clinical sexologist can help him understand and educate him on how to control the anxiety that cuts off the blood flow to the penis and function sexually again in the new dating world.

For women as they age their bodies, mind, and hormones change as well.

Some women in their twenties and thirties who took birth control pills for a long period of time, it can affect their desire later on, creating an imbalance in progesterone, estrogen and testosterone. If this happens a woman may want to get her hormones regulated by asking her doctor for a saliva test to see the levels. As women age many become more comfortable with their bodies, but may still feel uncomfortable talking about sex with their partner. Childbirth, hormones, stress, and unsatisfying sex over an extended period of time can greatly affect a women’s enjoyment of sex and her level of desire.

A woman that spends years in a relationship without having orgasms or enjoying sex, it can cause physical problems later on: Such as chronic bladder infections, pain during intercourse or a negative feeling towards sex.

On one end of the spectrum as women age and approaches their 40’s if sex is viewed as positive, and enjoyable then it can be a freeing experience for many women. Women in their 40’s that are divorced, meeting younger men are now having some of the best sex of their lives. For women mental stimulation at any age is important, as well as feeling safe with a partner and good about themselves. Women’s minds are constantly stimulated by daily stress so it takes women a longer time to calm down and focus on the sexual experience, before she can get aroused. Increased foreplay and positive mental stimulation is necessary for a woman to enjoy sex as she ages. Women fall into the same rut of boredom surrounding sex just as men do.


For both men and women understanding how the body and mind ages sexually is extremely important in a relationship, and for many married couples it can be one of the reasons why they are no longer being intimate with each other.
If you have a personal question for Dr. Dawn Michael you can visit her website www.thehappyspouse.com

Read more: http://www.examiner.com/article/how-the-body-and-mind-ages-sexually-both-men-and-woman?cid=db_articles#ixzz35xatxKiO