Understanding your sexual issues and what to do about them

So many people have some form of sexual problem at a point in their lives, but they don’t know who to talk to about them? 

This issue can be in a relationship, marriage or just personal sexual problems that keep an individual from living a healthy sex life. 

Whatever the issues are surrounding sexuality there is help and that can come in the form of seeing a sex counseloror sex coach.  Many times traditional types of therapy will not be the answer for sexual dysfunction.  A sex counselor or coach can be a person who is educated in therapy but also is taught about sexual health issues and human sexuality.

Human sexuality is extremely complex and the reason why, is that sex is a natural part of every human being, but in each person’s upbringing and in society that person is taught how to understand their sexuality, sex drive, and how it’s supposed to be looked upon as “normal” or right.  This is why a simple act of bringing pleasure to oneself can be made to feel shamed upon, looked down upon or told that they are somehow are unholy or not “normal”.

Sexual desire is squelched often times and people hide their true sexual self and this then creates numerous problems for them in relationships where intimacy is involved.  Having a healthy sexual view about oneself and healthy sexual expression to enjoy sex is a part of one’s simple pleasures in life.

As a sex counselor with my clients one of the first questions that a person asks is am I “normal” we talk about is their idea of shame and guilt surrounding their sexuality.  Then we go into some solutions and techniques involved in helping a person to get past their sexual issues and idea of what is normal or healthy for them sexually.  Sex coaching is a way to give information on sexuality and to solve sexual dysfunction in a relationship or a personal life.  One of the biggest mind shifts after seeing a sex counselor for many people is that their sexual issues were not being “normal” are put to rest and acceptance and understating can then take place.  Human sexuality in each person is unique and expressing it and that expression of it is personal to each and every person. 

Unhappy marriage advice on what to do?

Many people are living in an unhappy marriage. 

They have no idea how to end the marriage or even if they should.  Often, children are involved along with family, financial responsibility and community ties.
All of these aspects make it very difficult to end a marriage. 

The person who does end the marriage will usually get blamed by the children and others for breaking up the marriage.  Thus, it is very difficult to get out from under an unhappy marriage not to mention the guilt associated with it and the feelings like you failed your family.

What is a person to do in a situation like this?

The best possible resolution is to give oneself a chance to make sure that it is the final decision, get all of the ducks in a row and then take the plunge.  The part where people get stuck is in making a hasty decision and not giving the marriage a chance or one last try, if that is done and the other person is just not going to meet you half way or the behavior that drove you to want to leave is still present then it is time to plan to leave.

When children are involved it is going to be very difficult because they will blame you and feel as though you are breaking up the family.  This adds pressure and pain to an already horrible situation. 
This is where a person needs to get the support of others around them, friends and family that can help with the adjustment and take some of the pressure off of the situation.

Before getting out of an unhappy marriage, make sure that it is the right decision, have a plan of action and make certain to have a good support system in place for you and the children, then put the plan in place and end the marriage.  Life is to short to live in an unhappy marriage.