The Married Cuckold Man

Mother's Day Advice For Men

As mother’s day approaches I am always left with a mixed bag of emotions.  Growing up in the United States and following the culture, and holidays of an American family, Mother’s day was a big event that happened once a year.  My father would buy my mom a card, a gift and we would all go out as a family to brunch or someone in the family would host one for all the moms.  It was a favorite childhood experience of mine.  When I grew up and got married, had children of my own, my husband at the time did not grow up celebrating American holidays. Therefore he simply did not see the importance of them.  I would still celebrate with my mom and extended family and my children, but he did not get me a card or gift from the kids or himself.  He never understood the difference in cultures and how important it was to me celebrating certain holidays such as Mothers Day. 

As a professional counselor I help couples with their intimate lives in my private practice.  I go over the concept of “Familiar”  with the couples explaining how each person has an idea of what is familiar to them based on how they grew up.  What may be familiar to one person in a relationship may not away be familiar to the other person.  Explaining this to couples helps them to better see it from the other person’s perspective.  Honoring an important event to a spouse even though the other person may not see the importance of the event is part of respecting that person’s values.  Mothers’ day happens only once a year, so honoring a woman who is a mother if that is the tradition she was raised in is the right thing to do.  Making her feel special instead of ignoring that day will go a long way setting up positive feelings towards each other in a relationship.  The opposite is also true, not honoring her or being stubborn about celebrating it with her on that day if it is her "familiar" will only make her feel bad about the relationship and cause her to dreed mother’s day each year.  Lasting relationships are built on mutual respect and love, honoring each other and doing the best to make the other person happy, when this happens then the relationship will blossom.  Mother’s day is a time to be thankful to all the moms in the world who give of themselves not only to their children or step-children but to their families and significant others.  Both men and women can honor a mom, tell her that she is a great mom, and let her know how much you appreciate her even if she is not your mom, your wife or the mother of your children, she is still a mom and if you love let her know.  Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs in the world, as well as one of the most rewarding.  To all of the beautiful mom’s, I personally want to wish you a happy mother’s day and let you know that you are appreciated!

There is an epidemic of SEXLESS MARRIAGE

There has always been talk about women not wanting to have sex with their husband........What happens when it is the man not wanting to have sex with his wife?  Let's Explore the epidemic of sexless marriage in my new forum www.sexlessspouse.com.

The forum talks about my new book "Why Wont My Husband Have Sex With Me", bringing about topics that have been too taboo to speak about until now.  We delve into men who watch pornography instead of having sex with their wives and why it can happen to anyone.  As well as secret fetishes and why men cheat.  Are you tired of trying to get your husband to be intimate with you, longing to have that passion back in your life?  Or are you a husband struggling with how to tell your wife that you have performance issues, and each time you try to make love to her you lose your erection.  These issues are more common than one may think.

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Women and Orgasm: Reasons why some women can’t achieve orgasm during sex

As a sex therapist, and marriage counselor, many OBGYN’S and doctors refer me female patients that are not able to have an orgasm in their marriage or relationship. The amount of women that are pre-orgasmic is staggering, and those are the women who talk about it.

Many women live in marriages for years without having orgasms with their husbands, suffering in silence.

Our bodies create a natural hormone called oxytocin and that hormone is released during orgasm, nipple play, and during birth. Oxytocin is released when a woman has an orgasm during intercourse or even during foreplay. It promotes bonding in the couple, a calming effect and a natural pain killer. When a woman can have regular orgasms with her partner then she will want to have more and frequent sex with him. She will also feel closer to him, more loving and attached.

The opposite is true of women who don’t have regular orgasms with their partner; they become less interested in sex, more distant, and even resentful. This can cause great emotional pain in a woman; feeling that she is not able to enjoy sex or that there is something wrong with her. Orgasms for women can be a process and complicated at times. A woman’s body and natural response to sex is directly related to the mind and body connection along with hormone level fluctuation during her monthly cycle.

Facts and solutions concerning orgasm

Fact 1:

Lubrication is a necessity, having a dry vagina is not going to promote healthy sexual release, having a well lubricated vagina is always recommended.

Fact 2:

For the average women to bring herself to an orgasm or a partner involved, it takes 20 minute or more. A woman needs to be stimulated properly for at least twenty minute to have her vulvas (vagina) prepared and ready to orgasm.

Fact 3: Direct clitoral stimulation during intercourse is one of the ways a woman can achieve orgasm, 70% of women during intercourse alone without direct stimulation will not orgasm.

Fact 4: Starting intercourse before a woman’s vagina has lengthen and prepared it self for penetrating can be another factor in why a woman will not be able to have an orgasm. It takes time for a woman’s vagina to flower.

My recommendation to any woman who has not been able to achieve an orgasm here are a few solutions.

1. A woman is responsible for teaching herself how to have an orgasm through masturbation then she can show her partner.

2. Do not have intercourse until you are ready and this does not mean wet, it means that your vagina has flowered, taken the time to open up like a flower.

3. Relax and allow your mind to enjoy the experience, don’t put pressure yourself to have an orgasm.

4. Take charge of your clitoris; rub it yourself during intercourse to bring yourself to and orgasm if necessary.

5. Tell your spouse or partner when the experience is not what you are enjoying, move to a different position, add the lubrication, or start the foreplay over. A woman can have many orgasms so having your fist one before intercourse will insure that the vagina is ready to receive the joy of penetration.