Bedroom Talk: Better Sex, Starts With Appreciation

Have you ever noticed that when your spouse or significant other expresses appreciation towards you, that you suddenly feel closer to them?  That is the idea of appreciation and letting the person you love know how much you appreciate the little things that they do for you.  Appreciation can give you that warm feeling all over creating a deeper connection to your spouse.  It brings people together in a loving way which promotes better intimacy over all.  If you want sex that is more connected then start connecting outside the bedroom with appreciation towards your spouse.  As I always say, "Everyone deserves a healthy sex life, and so do you"  Give some appreciation today!

Get back the sexual intimacy in your relationship

Marriage is a partnership and that includes making each other happy sexually, not by having sex but by creating sexual intimacy.  Anyone can have sex or perform the act of intercourse, but sexual intimacy is another aspect that is often over looked.

 As a clinical sexologist and marriage counselor that is the area of marriage that I help couples to improve upon.  Once the sexual intimacy is brought back into the marriage, the couple will feel a renewed sense of closeness in the relationship.

Many times couples don't even realize that the intimacy is missing or perhaps they never had it to begin with.  One way that I help my clients is to begin with touching each other in an intimate non-sexual way.  This first exercise helps me as the counselor to understand where the couple is in their marriage and what needs to be the focus of healing.  Couples can speak or talk about the marriage until they are blue in the face,but the true test is can they look at each other without talking and touch each others faces in an intimate way.  Often times asking the couple to preform this simple exercise brings up emotions that they had no idea were at the core of the problems in the marriage.  Some couples when asked to do this simple exercise with their spouse found it almost impossible. 

Sexual intimacy is not based on male or female emotion, as a woman wanting it more than a man, it is a human necessity to be held, kissed, rubbed and touched in an intimate loving way.  Sexual intimacy is the foundation of making love rather than having sex.  Couples can be in a marriage for years and have sex but lack intimate sex.

How can this problem be resolved?

When I counsel couples we are active in creating a new marriage, one based on intimate exchange.  I ask them to do home assignments involving intimacy in the marriage and then we talk about it.  As the couples progress with their home assignments, they learn new aspects about each other, emotionally an physically.  They learn to communite with one another surrounding sex, and this leads to open discussion in other areas of the marriage. 

The transformation is a wonderful experience and the couples learn that sex can be fun, sexy, intimate and a wonderful part of the marriage.  As my motto goes "Everyone deserves to have a healthy sex life!", but it does take a commitment to make it work.

Men looking for answers to sexless marriage

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Are you in a marriage that is unfulfilling and lacking in sexual intimacy with your wife?
Is it a struggle every time you want to make love to your spouse? When you have sex with your spouse are your needs not being met?
Has it been three months since you have had sex with your wife?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then you may be in a sexless marriage.

There are many people who say that they are experts in the field of sexless marriage or have lived their own personal sexless marriage, so now they want to offer their expertise. The problem is that they do not have the insight into a woman’s mind and how to wake up the passion in a woman. What if you could get the secrets into a woman’s mind and learn these techniques from a professional that is not only a married woman herself but one that is a marriage counselor with a specialty in sexology. You may ask yourself where you can find this person to talk to and help you with your sexless marriage. Look no further, Dawn Michael has created The Happy Spouse website just for you. Learn how to be the man in your home, bring the passion back to your marriage and get your wife to want and desire you again.

Visit The Happy Spouse to make an appointment with Dawn Michael today. The Happy Spouse offers free articles on sex and marriage along with all of the sexual aid products that can help you bring the passion back to the bedroom. The Happy Spouse offers a selection of couples intimate products, women's products and men’s products, plus a new selection of sex toys designed by Dr. Berman. Have the marriage that you desire and have always wanted.

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