Can Watching Porn Create Sexual Issues and Confusion?

With the advance in technology in the filed of pornography, sex dolls and sex toys we are just starting to see some sexual issues result from this.  Dr. Dawn Michael discusses this in detail in this informative video.  She delves into some issues that have come to her attention as of lately on how people are responding to confusion with sexuality, sexual dysfunction and problems in their sex life as a result of watching pornography.

Maintenance Sex Is Crucial To Your Wellbeing

Maintaining optimal health in all areas of your life will have a direct impact on your overall wellbeing.  Most people will agree that maintaining your weight, your appearance, overall health, and even promoting healthy relationships is crucial to a healthy lifestyle.   

When a person is in a long term relationship it is crucial to maintain a healthy sex life that both people enjoy.  Not only is maintenance sex healthy for the relationship but it is also healthy for the body and the mind.  Having regular orgasms can regulate hormones, strength PC muscles, relieves stress and bring a couple closer together by sharing deeper intimacy.  Maintenance sex should not be confused with duty sex or have a negative stigma attached to it.  Over all optimal maintenance sex should involve both people having an orgasm and enjoyment of the experience.

For men their bodies adjust to a pattern of sexual release, if they are not climaxing with their partner then most men will masturbate to keep that sexual routine going.  If a man suddenly changes his sexual routine to limited climaxing, then he may feel a decrease in desire and even lower testosterone levels over time.  Having maintenance sex is one way to elevate this as well as provide optimal health.

For women having maintenance sex with orgasm, can help to strengthen PC muscles, regulate her hormones and have a positive effect on her desire.  When having an orgasm, powerful hormones are released that help to relieve stress as well as temporary pain relief.  In some women with chronic UTI maintain sex 3 times a week can help lessen chronic UTI from happening, as the body becomes used to the bacteria and is less likely to be affected by it, referred to as Honeymoon cystitis. 

Maintenance sex should be placed in the category of optimal health benefits and be enjoyed from that same perspective.  One thing for sure, those couples that do have maintenance sex reported a closer intimate relationship with their spouse as well as less fighting over the little things.

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The Submissive Husband

I told him to get down on his knee's and look up at me. 

I am in control of your orgasms as your wife and you will listen to me.  He looked up at me with passion in his eyes and nodded.  I then told him to rise and put his hands to his side.  I placed a chastity belt on his penis, locked it and put the key in my bra.  "I am now in control of your orgasms do you understand me?  You cannot touch yourself unless you ask me."  He nodded his head in response.  I told him to get dressed and ready for work.  He put his slacks on, his pressed blue shirt, Armani STRIPED SILK DRESS TIE,  jacket, cufflinks and alligator shoes.  We stepped out of the bedroom and everything changed.

 I was now domestic around the house and he was off to run his multimillion dollar company.

 A submissive husband is not a concept that most women understand.  The husband may be dominant in the business world and around others, but when it come to sex he prefers for his wife to be in control!

In American cultural the men are suppose to be dominant sexually, but this is not always the case.  There are some men who dominate their business life to the extent that they want to let lose and be dominated in the bedroom.  They feel a sense of relief when they can just be told what to do by their wives sexually, and not have to initiate or be responsible for controlling their sex lives all the time.

Some men have found a happy marriage where they can freely explore this type of sex play.  The idea that a man may get sexually excited by a woman being in control if looked at from another perspective may not be all that unusual.  As couples mature together sexually it can become boring or not very appealing to have sex the same way every time.  If we compare sexual desire to our taste in food we can see that over time our food choices change.  What might have tasted great when we were younger or we would not try at all seems to be interesting and delicious as we mature.  Even our taste buds change as we age, they dull and something spicy foods may become exciting or something sweet may be too sweet.  We also tend to try new spices as we mature.  The same goes for our sexual appetites.  Adding role play to the sexual routine may add the needed spices to make the meal all that much more flavorful.  Role play and change in who always controls sex can be a great way to allow a man to let go, relax and have fun.  Women who are able to let go and be dominate with their husbands from time to time have also reported a happier sex life, where they feel empowered using their feminine strength to excite him.  Women learn how to tap into their dominate feminine side using their sexuality to tease, excite and control their man's sexual desire and sexual response.

A woman taking over in the bedroom may be the dash of spice that her husband has been longing for.  As a clinical sexologist I recommend that couples talk about their sex lives with one another, and use the comparison of food to make it easier to talk about sex in a fun a playful way.  


For help with your intimate life contact Dr. Dawn Michael (805) 329-6112 or www.thehappyspouse.com

Watching too much pornography can lead to unhealthy sexual patterns?

There is such a things as “too much of a good thing!”   Allow me to define a healthy amount of pornography and masturbation as opposed to over indulgence. 

As a clinical sexologist, I have helped many people understand the difference between porn addiction, over desensitization, sexual pattern, and how to manage their sex lives.  There is a direct correlation with watching pornography, masturbation, and developing a sexual pattern. 

Now if you plan on being alone for the rest of your life, no human contact or ever dating and having sex with another person then watching porn by yourself endlessly can be your partner.  Most people though like having a “real sex partner”, lover, marriage, relationship over” just a life time of solo masturbation.”

Let me break this down into simple terms, watching too much porn and masturbating the same way each time, is going to create a sexual pattern, and this is going to make “real sex” with a “real person” more difficult.  The problem mainly occurs with men but a fair share of women get hooked on their vibrators and the same sexual pattern can happen there as well.  The brain gets used to the continued pattern by which a person orgasms.  Continued masturbation in the same way each time sets up the pattern, when involved with a partner that pattern is hard to break, especially if it is done consistently and over a long period of time,

Solutions to this ever growing problem?

Change it up, and do it often…….. Changing your sexual pattern is important; if you masturbate a certain way try a different hand or new way to stimulate yourself.  Use your imagination to masturbate too, give all the outside stimulation a break and think about what feels good on your own.  Connecting the mind and body is important for both a man and women to understand how to think outside the box sexually.  I am not saying that you can’t have some outside stimulation, like a video, magazine or sex toy, but make it a once and a while “a treat” rather than the experience.  Don’t let you sexual pattern ruin your sex life!